It is so funny to stumble across old bits of writing. When I wrote this piece, I hadn’t yet joined the marriage case in Canada, which I did in September of 2000. We have had the right to wed in Canada since June of 2003, but the issue is still very current in the US and other countries.
I remember having a to-and-fro with the editor who originally published this essay about whether the parlour game was 20 Questions (as I asserted) or 21 Questions (as she asserted). See–must have been before it was easy to look things up on the web. She was wrong, but she won.
Oops, here’s another reader review I just found: